Today is Pregnancy and Infant Loss Remembrance Day. Everyone is invited to light at candle at 7 pm in their time zone in remembrance. If everyone lights a candle and keeps it burning for at least once hour, there will be a continuous WAVE OF LIGHT over the entire world.
Today marks the 1 year anniversary of the day we found out our third child had passed away. Throughout the tough year, I have been overwhelmed by the support and compassion shown to me by other mothers who have also suffered the same pain. 90% of women that I have spoken with have lost a child. Many of you reading this post have either lost a child or know someone who has. Please know that today I am praying for you as well.
I am lighting my candle for my son, Andrew Johnathan.
(And sorry for the lack of deals lately. I honestly just haven’t had it in me. I hope to be back to the full swing of things next week. I don’t know what I would do without you. I love being able to interact and help so many of you on a daily basis. Thank you for sticking with me!)
Praying for all of you who have lost. Can’t even imagine what all of you have gone through. Sending Love and Prayers!!
I cried reading through everyone’s posts. I’m so sorry for all of your losses. I couldn’t imagine losing a child. Sometimes you “take for granted” or forget how lucky you are to have a healthy child. Every minute is so precious.
I’m so sorry for your loss and everyone else that have lost their precious children. I lost all four of our babies. I lost Daniel at 15 weeks 5/18/97, Jesse at 12 weeks 12/21/99, Jennifer at 5 weeks on 5/16/2000 and Jessica at 20 weeks on 8/28/2000. I gave birth to Jessica. Got to hold her. I’m so thankful for the time I got to spend with her and the time I was pregnant with our other three angels. I miss them so much. The same pain comes no matter how long that precious angel is inside you or was born. I will be lighting a candle at 7pm for our precious angels. Hugs for everyone that has had a loss.
My husband and I just lost our little girl yesterday morning (I was 18 weeks pregnant). I thought I would go online today to give my mind a break from thinking on it, then I saw your post. I almost passed over it because I knew I would begin to cry again, but now I am glad I didn’t. It has brought me a bit of peace and helps me feel like I am not alone. Thank you to Kristin and everyone who posted a reply for sharing your stories.
jeanette,
i know there isn’t anything i can say to make it better, but my heart is breaking for you and your husband. i’ve been there too, and like someone else said above, it never goes away but it does get easier to bear. know that we all are thinking of you and sending our prayers.
i am lighting a candle for my daughter nevaeh faith thomas who i lost october 14, 2011, I was 16 weeks pregnant & gave birth too her.. She was 3.4 ounces & 7 inches long.. Not a day that goes by that i wont be thinking about my beautiful daughter.
I understand your pain all too well. After NINE IUI’s and TWO fresh IVF cycles we were pregnant with twins this year. I went into preterm labor, was on hospitlalized bedrest for 12 days only to deliver two stillborn babies at 22 weeks. Lucy and Isaiah born September 16, 2011, my angels in heaven. To hold the children you never get to take home is something a mother should never have to endure. The pain is consuming.
My heart goes out to you, Kristin, and the other mothers who have suffered losses. Please know you are all in my prayers tonight. Take care everyone. Big group (((HUG)))).
I lost my firstborn Aaron Caleb at birth, my 2nd was miscarried before the first month. I then had to go through fertility treatments that didn’t work. Finally, after I turned 40, I had my one and only beautiful daughter. Blessings to all those who have suffered, there are many of us.
I’m so sorry for your loss. You are in my thoughts and prayers. It’s been six years since I gave birth and lost a son during the 5th month of pregnancy.
I have a precious daughter after 2 yrs of trying but since then I have lost 3 babies, 1 at 13 wks and the other 2 around 6-7 weeks. I think about my precious babies often and look foward to meeting them in Heaven! I pray God will bless us with another child to love here on earth. Im so thankful for my little girl who is almost 4yrs old. She brings such joy to our lives. My thoughts and prayers go out to so many friends who have lost babies and who are still waiting to become mothers.
You take care of yourself and your family. That is what’s important right now. I’ve never lost a child, but like so many on here, I waited a long time before finally being blessed with my little angel. My husband and I tried for 2 years before I got pregnant, and during the 8-9 months or so preceeding my getting pregnant, I worried that it would never happen. Fertility testing/treatment and adoption were never an option for us financially, we’re just squeaking by as it is (with the help of couponing). It’s sad that there are so many unwanted babies out there and families who would love to adopt them but are unable financially.
Kristin, you are an amazing person and your blog helps so many of us!! I suffered a miscarriage as well 16 yrs ago. The pain eases, but never goes away. I have 3 girls now 13, 8, and 6. Take some time to mourn, reflect, and heal a little. Sending hugs and prayers.
So sorry for your loss and the losses of everyone who posted here. We have had 2 losses and now have twin boys through the miracle of modern medicine. I often feel as if there is someone missing but I know our family is complete as is.
Hugs for you all.
Sending prayers to you for comfort. I lost 3 before I had my two beautiful children. I thank God everyday for the blessings that I have, and know that someday I will meet my other children who are watching over us.
My daughter was full term. She was born alive but due to complications from diaphragmatic hernia she passed after 9 hours. She looked perfect but her little lungs and heart were broken :( i miss my Madison DeAnna
Prayers to all of your family’s and your heavy hearts:( its been 7 yrs since we lost one of our twins Maxi @3 days old I went into labor and delivered at 24 weeks her twin Sloane survived and is the reason I can go on, her and my other kids is all that keeps me sane the pain never gets better it never goes away but with time you hurt less off ten God has a reason for all things …. Mom to 5 with legs 1 with wings:)
Praying for all of you who have lost little ones. Blessings and *Hugs* to you all!
I look at your blog every single day. Sometimes, multiple times. I have learned so much from your advice, tips, and positive attitude towards couponing and saving money for my family, classroom, and extended family now (my dear, sweet dad!).
This particular post struck a cord, on this particular day. I miscarried 2 months ago. I have been better each day, and lately, I’ve been great. Today, I am going through and organizing my office/storage and that meant coming upon all the saved baby clothes from my first child (so much gratitude for that sweet angel). Needless to say, there were many mixed emotions consisting of utterly joyful memories of all the baby stages we went through with our daughter, and then the reminders that I could have been getting prepared for our second child with the same items. I lost it. By myself. Waiting for my husband to come home and get a hug. So, I send you many hugs, much love, and positive thoughts that your little one is somewhere very special keeping an eye on you and your family (at least that’s how I believe).
And I am so grateful you wrote this and shared this on this day. I will be lighting my candle. Many thanks
My candles are lit for the niece or nephew I never met, and for a friend of mine who lost her triplets a few weeks ago. :-(
I have lost two precious angels. I am so thankful for the girls I have been blessed wtih. I will be thinking of everyone who has shared in this pain also. (((HUGS)))
I will be lighting 2 candles, one for my twins and one for the other parents out there who lost a child or children. It is comforting that there is support out there and that we can talk about it. I still get overwhelmed…some days I go without thinking seriously about them and then others I can’t get them out of my mind. I have had miscarried before the twins, but for some reason it did not effect me so emotionally, and I am not sure if its because I saw the twins and not my other babies or if it is because I carried them longer and had so much hope that everything would turn out alright……I still lay awake some nights wondering why and how they met their demise, but I am still blessed though with the two children I have.
Sorry for such a long post, I really do not have many to talk to about this.
margarita, i hope you can see by these posts that you are not alone, even though i know it feels that way. i for one am someone who deals with grief by talking to someone; if you feel like you need to talk, please message me and i will be happy to listen.
to all the rest out there commenting: your good thoughts and prayers mean so much to me, and i’m sure to all the others of us trying to handle these circumstances the best we can. again, my heart and prayers and with all of you.
Hugs to you Margarita!
I had three beautiful children ( a daughter, then 2 boys) before I had my first miscarriage. I lost the baby at 61/2 weeks just after finding out we were expecting. Then 3 yrs. later I lost twins. The babies died again at 61/2 weeks but I didn’t miscarry them until almost 12 weeks. Unfortunately my doctor didn’t do an ultrasound until 11 weeks when things weren’t checking out. They would have been a year this month. I think about my angels in heaven often and look forward to the day I meet them!!
I have 4 children and have lost 3. There is comfort in knowing that one day I will see them all in heaven.
lighting a candle for our baby girl Livvie Angle. we lost at 6 weeks. and praying with all the other families that have to go threw loss.
So sorry for your loss! I don’t know the pain of losing a child but the pain of wanting a child so badly and feeling broken and useless when not being able to have one! We tried with 2 years of fertility and finally was blessed with Peyton and now he is being tested for autism! Parenthood is a struggle with the brightest moments of happiness and fulfillment! We were blessed with another son 4 years later also with the help of fertility! Even though I have them and they are our lives that memory of the pain of brokenness is still there! Praying for all of the mothers who have lost and have the emptiness! And praying for the day that sin is no more and none of us have to live with this pain!
I know your loss, our family lost our grandson after 6 years on April 9, 2011. I will light a candle for Micheal Kaden.
So sorry for your loss. I am glad that it’s coming out in the open and a topic that is becoming ok to talk about. We have 2 beautiful girls but it took us 10 pregnancies to get them. There were so many tears but having my girls makes it worth everything we went through to get them.
Someone once told me that a soul picks you as parents. Sometimes the body that soul gets is just not strong enough to get to you but that that same little soul keeps trying to reach your arms. I am so glad the souls that picked us were every bit as stubborn and persistent as their mom.
Peggy, your take on it made me cry! I literally just burst into tears reading your belief on children and parents. What a beautiful way to look at it!!! :)
{{{ Kristin }}}, you take all the time you need; the loss of a wanted child, at whatever stage of pregnancy or life, is more than enough reason to take some time for yourself. I miscarried my only pregnancy 20 years ago this month, and I still think about that child, and what might have been; thankfully I’m now an adoptive mother and my daughter is amazing. Your family will support each other and get you through this, as will we. We know it takes time, and we’ll be here. :)
my love and my thoughts go out to all of you who have lost, as i have. i have four living children, and have lost three others. it’s amazing how sometimes things will be going fine, and BAM! all of the sudden i’m thinking about one of the babies and then i’ll go through memories of all of them. sometimes it’s a daily struggle to go on and other times time goes on for a while and i’m fine. i’m so grateful for the four i got to keep. i know that after this life i will be know the other three and it will be a joyous reunion!! best of thoughts to you all.
Can’t imagine how hard this must be for you! My love and prayers are with you. Thanks for all you do!
I agree Kelli! a loss is a loss no matter when or how. I lost one of my twins at 9 weeks. After 6 years of fertility treatments, i was pregnant with twins. only one was born 9 months later. A day doesnt go by that i dont imagine what it would be like if i had both babies. Thankfully I do have Gracin who is now turning 6 in January. I am truly blessed. My sympathies to everyone that has or will experience a loss.
I lost a baby at 8 weeks. So many were immediately saying “well at least it was early in the pregnancy”. This is something that should never be said. A loss is a loss no matter how far along. I was very blessed that I got pregnant 2 weeks after the miscarriage, and she is now 4. In my heart, I still “feel” the family of 5 we would have been. In my dreams at times, I have 3 kids. I can never see the other child, but I know he’s there. It was hard, but it was amazing the out pouring of love other mommies embraced me with. Makes me proud to be a mommy and know that I am not alone.